Art of Speaking Toastmasters Club
Speak to Win!How To Conquer Communication Anxiety?
Confidence builds with time
and exposure. You will find that the more you speak in
public, the less nervous you will be. It is therefore a good
idea to use any opportunity to practice and gain experience.
Even short “speeches” (such as questions asked in a class
setting, participating in a discussion, offering a toast, or
making an announcement) add up. Remember: Practice makes
perfect!
Several
days or weeks before your speech:
- Put the situation in perspective. Remind yourself that you’ve been talking to people all your life.
- Select a topic that interests and excites you. If you truly wish to share your knowledge and communicate with the audience, you will probably forget your nervousness and focus on the topic instead.
- Research your topic well. Nothing helps reduce anxiety better than thorough preparation.
- Plan your opening carefully. Nervousness is at its peak at the beginning of a presentation. A well-prepared introduction will help calm you down and build your confidence for the rest of your speech.
- Imagine that you are giving your speech first to one person, then two people, then five, and finally to the whole audience.
- Don’t forget to rehearse gestures and body movements. Don’t force them, but let them become an integral part of your presentation.
- Check out the room in which you will deliver your speech and determine the best location for visual aids.
- Practice, practice, practice!
The
night before and the day of your speech:
- Try to get a good night’s sleep before your speech so that you are physically and mentally rested and at your best.
-
Explain to yourself what’s happening to your body. Remember
that the symptoms
you are experiencing (butterflies, dry mouth, etc.) are your
body’s
ways of helping you through stressful situations. - Burn up excess energy. Relieve the tension in your muscles by getting off the bus a stop early, walking around the block, or taking the stairs rather than the elevator.
- Practice relaxation exercises. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Breathe deeply and slowly. Tense and then relax your muscles, starting with your toes and working up to your neck and face.
- Identify negative self-talk (e.g., “My audience will be bored.”) and replace it with positive messages (e.g., “My speech is important and interesting.”).
- Have a
positive attitude toward your listeners. Assume that they
will be supportive
and attentive. Expect that they understand the speechmaking
process and will be helpful. They know just how you feel! - Visualize
success. Imagine that you are part of the audience and watch
yourself deliver your speech competently and with
confidence, If you think
you can do it, you can do it.
Right
before, during, and after your speech:
- Take a few deep breaths.
- Act
with confidence and you will feel that way. Show your
listeners a
confident speaker communicating well-researched and
carefully prepared
ideas. - Focus
on your message, not yourself. Don’t talk about your speech
to your audience
(e.g., don’t say “I hope you will like my presentation.”),
and never
ask for sympathy (e.g., don’t say “I’m nervous” or “I’m scared”). Remember that your audience is with you and wants you to succeed. - Pause before you speak. Gather your thoughts, make eye contact, and start with conviction. Don’t be afraid to smile—the audience will smile back!
- Use energy while you talk. Employ gestures and utilize the space provided by moving around just a bit. But keep in mind that too many gestures and movements may be distracting; so be aware and move naturally.
- Use visual aids. They create interest and make you feel less self-conscious because they help the audience to focus on something besides you.
- Make eye contact with all parts of your audience, but also search for friendly faces. They can provide an anchor of reassurance throughout your speech.
- If you make a mistake, it is not the end of the world! Most mistakes are not even noticed by the audience.
- Pause before your conclusion, and then present the rest of your speech with special emphasis.
- Don’t end with a statement that expresses relief (e.g., “I made it.) or disappointment (e.g., “This was not very good.”). The focus should remain on your message, not on yourself.
- Don’t go back to your seat immediately after your speech. Accept applause, invite questions, and thank the audience for their interest.
